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do we recover?

Welcome to the January 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Recovering from the Holidays This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have written about how their families get back to normal after the holidays are over. ***

God, we laughed.  We laughed until we couldn’t hold onto our chopsticks.  We sat at a corner table in an otherwise empty, stained-linoleum Chinese dive, clearly kept in business solely by take-out orders for stoned local youth.  We no longer cared what we ate; the food tasted, like all food did to us then, like nothing.  Just a chore of mastication and swallowing.  The laughter tasted strange in our mouths, and tickled our nostrils like bile.  

How strange, to taste anything at all.  We laughed and laughed and found wet spots in our underwear when we finally went home.  We bent over, gasping for air, as if neither of us had taken a full breath since our baby had died a few weeks before.

Our wise friend had herded us toward the unoccupied restaurant, knowing that we were not really ready for being in public and as likely as not to skip meals.  And then she started talking, telling us these stories that she’d never told us in the years of our friendship, stories that if I tried to tell them now would probably not make any sense.  But at that time, they made perfect, hilarious sense, and they broke us.  Our loss had broken us so deeply, and we had patched ourselves together with grief, and then she came and broke us again, with laughter. 

Perhaps the drafty, bleak restaurant helped, for we were not comfortable.  The food was greasy and bland; we were not sated.  We were not, despite our laughter, happy.  For happiness would have been too far down a path we did not know if we could travel without denying our daughter, our love for her, expressed through our sadness.  But we could, we discovered, laugh.  And it made us breathe, and it felt sort of okay, if terrifying.  Would we slowly return to something resembling “normal?”  Could we do so without leaving behind our daughter? 

We did, and we didn’t.  She is part of my every day, and I no longer carry the grief in the same large way.  It is small, like a finger.  Part of every action, yet not often noted.  So, did I recover? 

recover (v.)

    c.1300, "to regain consciousness," from Anglo-Fr. rekeverer (late 13c.), O.Fr. recovrer, from L. recuperare "to recover" (see recuperation). Meaning "to regain health or strength" is from early 14c.; sense of "to get (anything) back" is first attested mid-14c. Related: Recovered; recovering.  (from the Online Etymology Dictionary)

I did regain consciousness, if a changed one.  I regained health and strength (although I still find a wet spot if I laugh too hard).  I did not get her back.  I never will.  But I did get myself back, a new self.  Not necessarily better.  But here.

This holiday season has been, for me, overshadowed by my memories of that time, a long, full twelve years ago, but brought back into sharp focus by the horrific shooting in Newtown.  My youngest is in first grade now, and we live in a wouldn’t-happen-here small town, just like them.  Those families who will never recover, at least in some ways, from this holiday without their children.

And of course they are not the only ones.  The families of Trayvon Martin, of Jyoti Singh Pandey, of countless others whose names we do not know.  Children killed by drone strikes, by preventable and treatable diseases, by hunger.  The Newtown children look like my children, so they touch me in a tender place, and allow my heart to open to the pain of their families, and by extension, the pain of the other families whose lives do not resemble mine.  Our disparate hopes and dreams for our children’s happiness, the isolating pain of our losses.

We must not “recover” superficially.  We must not go about our business as if our hearts can truly forget.  Our national grief can focus our national will: several gun control bills have already been introduced, and our legislators will need to know if we care enough to pass them.  Wherever our grief touches us, we can work for change, for better health care services, for social justice, for peace.  If we cover up our hurt, we can pretend these things don’t matter.

Do we recover?  We re-enter the world.  But what we have lost remains lost.  We remain broken.  Our broken-ness can open our hearts, but grief can seal them shut tight and rigid.    May someone come along for each of us who can break us again, with laughter. 

 

(in memory of Tobin)

 

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting this March!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Pinterest Inspiration for Easier Winter Holidays Shannon, writing at Natural Parents Network, shares inspiration for having more relaxed winter holidays from their Handmade Holidays Pinterest board.
  • Seven Recipes for Beans - Post Holiday Cleaning — Destany at They Are All of Me shares her favorite bean recipes that she hopes will help her body recover from overindulging her sweet tooth during the holidays.
  • The Recovery in the Change — Laura at Pug in the Kitchen made changes in her life and attitude throughout 2012 and was pleasantly surprised at how those changes impacted her holiday recovery!
  • Could this question change your life for ever? — To get your new year off on the right footing, Mrs Green of Little Green Blog is challenging us all to love ourselves with commitment and discipline. She asks you to focus on a simple question which might just bring you back in balance...
  • Holiday Recovery — Meegs at A New Day talks about how the holidays can be overwhelming for a toddler, and how she's helping her 3 year old recover.
  • 5 Ways to Detox After the Holidays — Brittany at The Pistachio Project gives a few ways to help you detox and get back on track after the holiday season has passed.
  • 3 Simple Ways to Establishing Rhythm After the Holidays or Any Time — Sheila at A Living Family shares 3 simple ways to reestablish a rhythm of connection and calm in your family after holidays, visitors, travel or any time.
  • Gemstones For Holiday Hangoverss — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama delves into the power of gemstones as an often overlooked means of dealing with the holiday letdown.
  • Getting back to Healthy — Bess at A Warrior Mom talks about the struggle of getting young ones back to eating healthy after several days to weeks of getting more candy and sweets than normal for the holidays and gives some suggestions on how to get them back to eating healthy in the new year.
  • Post Christmas Juice Feast — Sam at Love Parenting explains why she has created a new tradition of juice feasting, and how she includes her toddler when detoxing.
  • The Java Monkey On My Back — Christy at Eco Journey in the Burbs realizes it is time to kick her cup of Joe habit as a first step toward detoxing.
  • Minimalist Holidays — Jorje of Momma Jorje doesn't find much need for recovery after her minimalist version of the holidays.
  • Do something for you — Lauren at Hobo Mama urges you to find a silly and indulgent reward of me-time — and she has hers.
  • do we recover? — Kenna at Million Tiny Things wonders what recovery really means in the context of the tragedies of this past holiday season.
  • 37 Easy Ways to Save Money — Shannon at GrowingSlower is sharing these money-saving tips to help get your budget back on track after the holidays.
  • A Two Year Old's ResolutionsThat Mama Gretchen is putting the holidays behind her with a spin on traditional resolutions — New Year's goals for her two-year-old! Sound crazy? Read on for an explanation!
  • How to Find Balance after the Holidays — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells her favorite ways to start a new year with hope and calmness.
  • Fresh Awakening — For Luschka at Diary of a First Child, the new year has coincided with a return to restful nights. With sleep, she's found new directions in life, but while she can't make too many changes to her life right now, she's inspired and excited about the future.
  • Learning to slow down after a busy Festive Season Stoneageparent describes the joys and lows of this year's festive season, as well as her New Year's resolutions.
  • Detoxing' Your Toddler After the Holidays — Does your family suffer side effects from the holidays? Join Christine from African Babies Don't Cry to learn how she detoxed herself and her toddler off the treats and festivities of the season.
  • Scheduling is OK! — Jaye Anne at Wide Awake, Half Asleep explores the possibilities of the — SCHEDULE!!
  • We're Saving their First Christmas for Next Time — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot takes it easy after moving with her husband and new babies to Scotland.
  • A Vacation from the World — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children retreats with her family at the end of every year in order to recuperate and enjoy one another.
  • On the Road to Recovery — Dionna at Code Name: Mama isn't just recovering from the holidays, she's recovering from a lifestyle.
  • We Never Left the GrindErika Gebhardt compares a typical day pre-holidays and post-holidays.
  • Remembering and Recovering from the Holidays (One day at a time) — Emily at S.A.H.M i AM is recovering from holidays slowly--taking one day at a time--while trying to remember all the sweet moments that passed too quickly.
  • 5 a Day — To get back on track Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy needed a simple system to help her family learn new values.
  • Holiday Detox & Healing: Bieler Broth — Megan at The Boho Mama shares her secret for a gentle, whole-foods-based post-holiday detox: Bieler Broth!
  • I'm Mama Not Supermom — After a year filled with changes Angela at EarthMamas World has to remind herself that she does not have to be supermom while recovering from the holiday chaos.

Tags: Carnival of Natural Parenting, holidays, justice, laughter

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Dredged Up

Welcome to the December 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Childhood Memories

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have talked about memories of growing up — their own or the ones they’re helping their children create. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Tell me a story, she says, sleepy-eyed but unable to drift off.  Sweet innocence, curled against her pillow.  Tell me a story.

 

Geez, not again, I think.  I just want to go to sleep.  Gimme a f-ing break.

 

Pre-childbearing, I pictured myself spinning tales of adventure and mystery, with messages of wisdom and peace.  Yeah, right.  Pre-childbearing, I thought a lot of other stuff too, most of which has turned out to be total bullsh*t. 

 

There was a period, during Number 2’s potty training, when I pulled out my dormant storyteller.  Turned out, Number 2 had an intense fear of going number 2 anywhere but his size XXL diaper.  Unless.  Unless I told a long complicated never-before-heard installment in the ongoing fantasy adventures of Anna Zanes (Dan Zanes’ real life daughter, on whom my three-year-old had developed a huge crush/fixation).  As best I can recall, there were pirates and helicopters and Anna always had to save Dan from some perilous situation he had gotten himself into.  The day is saved!  The End, wipe, flush, wash.  Whew.

 

Eventually, the story phased out of the bathroom routine, thank goodness, since the well was pretty dry.  Not that it had a very big reservoir to start with.  And then Number 3 came along.

 

Tell me a story, she begs.  And my mind goes instantly blanker than the looks the kids give me when I suggest room-cleaning as a remedy for boredom.  That desperate self who managed to dredge up those long potty-training yarns seems like a distant stranger.  Fiction is far beyond my now post-divorce, post-depression, past-the-point-of-exhaustion capabilities.  I can’t think of anything.

 

Tell me the skates, then.rag doll, loved out of her clothes

 


The skates story, a story from my own childhood that I myself know only through my mother’s telling of it.  I was too young to remember, but apparently Santa brought me a beautiful rag doll (now cherished by my little story-hungry girl) on the same Christmas morning that my older siblings got roller skates.  And I (wretched ingrate) threw myself down and howled, “I WANT SKATES!!” all day long.  After which my mother was apparently so traumatized that she needed to remind me of this incident at numerous junctures in my subsequent development.

 

That horrid Christmas morning more than 40 years ago lives somewhere close to my daughter’s heart, a reminder that I, like her, was “the little one,” like her, oppressed in oh-so-many ways.  She asks for the skates over and over.   But it never stops there.

 

Tell me another one. 

 

Thus her persistence drags almost-forgotten memories out of the mixed-up files in my perimenopausal brain, one by one: nights by campfires, songs from summer camp, long-dead horses and dogs, the idiosyncratic habits of her great-grandparents.  In doing so, she reminds me what it was like to grow up, how it feels to be so small, so powerless, and how large the gaps between adult and child perception can be.  She is searching for connection, for solace, for a pathway into sleep.  And as she searches, she shows me myself, in perspective. 

 

I’m tired.  I resist.  Every night, I’d rather just read a novel for a few chapters to find my own way into rest.  But every night, she shows me how to find a little bit of myself, instead.  And the telling of the stories wraps my own childhood memories into hers, the same way my own mother’s re-told childhood is entangled in my own consciousness.  In this way I pass pieces of myself into my daughter, at her insistence.  And if all goes well, she will take this piecemeal history and create her own storyline to pass on. 

 

The end (until tomorrow). Good girl.  Goodnight.

 

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

 
  • Childhood Memories of Peace, Support, Joy, and Love — Amber at Heart Wanderings wants to make sure the majority of the memories that her children have as a part of their family are ones that are positive and help support the amazing people that they are now and will become as adults.
  • Hand Made Baby Books — Destany at They Are All of Me talks about why baby books are important to her for preserving memories of her childrens first years, and shows how she made one by hand for each child.
  • Can your childhood memories help you keep your cool?Here's To A Boring Year uses memories of being a child to keep her on the path to peaceful parenting.
  • Inter-Generational Memories {Carnival of Natural Parenting} — Meegs at A New Day talks about her own childhood memories, and what she hopes her daughter will remember in the future.
  • Snapshots — ANonyMous at Radical Ramblings reflects on the ways our childhood memories appear to us, and hopes her own daughter's childhood will be one she remembers as being happy and fulfilled.
  • What makes the perfect parent? — In a guest post on Natural Parents Network, Mrs Green from Little Green Blog reflects on camp follow and camp no-follow...
  • In My Own Handwriting — Laura from Pug in the Kitchen talks about her journals and the hope that they will be able to keep her stories alive even if she isn't able to.
  • Candlelight, fairylight, firelight — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud re-discovers the ingredients for bringing magic to life, especially at Christmas.
  • Making Memories (or) How We Celebrate Christmas — Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis talks about creating new memories at Christmas, and the joy their adventures bring to her whole family.
  • The Importance of Recording Feelings and Emotions and Not Just the Experience — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares why she puts pen to paper every day to record more than just her experiences as a mother and her daughter's experiences as a child. Jennifer looks at the importance of capturing feelings and emotions that accompany the experience.
  • Dredged up — Kenna at Million Tiny Things has been forced to recount childhood memories at bedtime, due to the failure of her middle-aged imagination. She resists, of course.
  • Crafting Memories — Handmade is what makes the holidays special for Christy at Eco Journey In the Burbs, and she wants to create the same connection with her daughters that she remembers with her mother and grandmother.
  • My Childhood Memories; beacons of light in the darkness Stone Age Parent shares the impact of her childhood memories on her life as a parent today, listing some of her many rich childhood memories and how they now act as beacons of light helping her in the complex, often confusing world of child-rearing.
  • 10 Ways I Preserve Memories for My Children — From video interviews to time capsules, Dionna at Code Name: Mama wants to make sure her children have many different ways to cherish their childhood memories. Dionna's carnival post features ten of the ways she preserves memories; check out her Pinterest board for more ideas.
  • Memories of my mother — Luschka at Diary of a First Child remembers her mother and the fondest moments of her childhood, especially poignant as she sits by her mother's sickbed writing.
  • Creating Happy Childhood Memories through Family Traditions — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells why family traditions are so important to her and her family and shares how she’s worked to create traditions for her children.
  • Traditional Christmas Tree — Jaye Anne at Wide Awake, Half Asleep remembers the great times spent with her family driving for the Christmas Tree and the lessons learned.
  • Wet Socks and Presents — Kat at MomeeeZen writes about her favorite Christmas childhood memory and why it's so special. And she hopes one day her kids will also have a feel-good memory of their own to look back on.
  • Stuff does not equal memories — Lauren at Hobo Mama learns that letting go does not mean failing to remember.
  • A Child's Loss- Will They Remember Dad? — Erica at ChildOrganics writes about their family's loss of their husband and father. She trys to find answers to the question: Will they remember their Dad?
  • Childhood Memories - Hers and Mine — Jorje of Momma Jorje wished for her daughter the same passions and experiences she loved as a child, but learns the hard way to accept whatever passions strike in her child.
  • Holiday Non-TraditionsErika Gebhardt enjoys her family's tradition of not having traditions for the holidays.

Tags: Carnival of Natural Parenting, Christmas, holiday

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Poor Little Chicken

Welcome to the October 2012 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Instilling a Healthy Self-Image

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared confessions, wisdom, and goals for helping children love who they are. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Poor chickens. They’re still trapped in their coop, this perfect Indian summer morning, when they could be pecking up the overripe fallen blackberries. God only knows when they’ll get out now. I have told my daughter I will wait for her, and she wants to get dressed first. (Sigh.) For either of the boys that would mean simply grabbing a t-shirt and a pair of skinny jeans, but for my daughter nothing is simple about getting dressed.

She will, inevitably, end up in the same outfit as the boys: T-shirt, skinny jeans, sneakers.  But the process will involve many iterations of the single phrase: “You don’t get it, mom.”  The ripped jeans are the most comfortable but they catch your foot on the way down.  The clean ones are too stiff from the line, the dirty ones are…well, something is wrong with them, something I “don’t get.”  The socks are too small, too big, too lumpy, too pink.  None of the t-shirts look right.  And sometimes the clothes get on despite all the problems, and sometimes there’s a six-year-old girl crumpled on the floor by the rejected clothes, crying.  “Why am I like this, mom?”  My poor little chicken.

 And sometimes before it gets bad, I have to walk away, because I have lost my patience for this endless dressing, undressing, searching for the one item of clothing that will finally make her feel good, right, in her clothes.  It kills me, watching this bold, strong, happy naked child reduced to such anxiety by the need to clothe herself. 

Just wear the damn soft comfy yoga pants, I telepathically command.  You are SIX!  Clothes shouldn’t matter.  “How about these?” I gently offer through a slightly stiff jaw.

 “The other girls will laugh at me if I wear those.”  Really?? Because I know those girls, and honestly, they could care less.  More likely, they would tell you how cute they were.  But in the end, my little chicken always plays it safe, finds a pair of jeans and t-shirt she can tolerate, and puts on the same exact sneakers her best friend wears, even though they are too tight and she has another pair that fits better.

 Of course, I try to model playful enjoyment of my own clothes, feeling good about how I look (even when I’m pretending), and when it takes me a few tries to get to the right outfit, saying it’s about how I feel in the clothes, not what other people will think.  I make a point of telling her how wild and free she looks to me, how her body can do so many amazing things, how she looks graceful and strong in her ballet skirt.  And then, the next day, we are crying about the clothes again.  Somehow, all those women’s studies classes didn’t inoculate me against this big mothering fail.

 Nevertheless, I’m holding on to the hope that I’m doing something right.  When we do finally get down to the chicken coop to release the prisoners into the sunny day full of berry bushes, we stay to watch the chickens enjoy their belated freedom.  And of course, the rooster wants to show off a bit, strut and then enjoy his privileges with a hen or two.  Watching an embattled, squawking hen, my daughter crosses her arms and says firmly, “No one is EVER going to make ME do sex.”  Yes! my inner feminist mama hen cheers.  Hold that thought, little happy, strong, naked chicken, and your feathers will grow in just fine.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon October 9 with all the carnival links.)

  • Why I Walk Around Naked — Meegs at A New Day talks about how she embraces her own body so that her daughter might embrace hers.
  • What I Am Is Not Who I Am — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama discusses her views on the importance of modeling WHO she is for her daughter and not WHAT she sees in the mirror.
  • Carnival of Natural Parenting: Verbs vs. Adjectives — Alisha at Cinnamon & Sassafras tries hard to compliment what her son does, not who he is.
  • The Naked Family — Sam at Love Parenting talks about how nudity and bodily functions are approached in her home.
  • How She'll See Herself — Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis discusses some of the challenges of raising a daughter in our culture and how she's hoping to overcome them.
  • Self Esteem and all it's pretty analogies — Musings from Laura at Pug in the Kitchen on what she learned about self-esteem in her own life and how it applies to her parenting.
  • Beautiful — Tree at Mom Grooves writes about giving her daughter the wisdom to appreciate her body and how trying to be a role model taught Tree how to appreciate her own.
  • Do As I Say, Not As I Do: Nurturing A Healthy Body Image — Christy at Eco Journey in the Burbs is changing perceptions about her body so that she may model living life with a positive, healthy body image for her three young daughters.
  • Some{BODY} to LoveKate Wicker has faced her own inner demons when it comes to a poor body image and even a clinical eating disorder, and now she wants to help her daughters to be strong in a world that constantly puts girls at risk for losing their true selves. This is Kate's love letter to her daughters reminding them to not only accept their bodies but to accept themselves as well in every changing season of life.
  • They Make Creams For That, You Know — Destany at They Are All of Me writes about celebrating her natural beauty traits, especially the ones she passed onto her children.
  • New Shoes for Mama — Kellie of Our Mindful Life, guest posting at Natural Parents Network, is getting some new shoes, even though she is all grown up…
  • Raising boys with bodily integrity — Lauren at Hobo Mama wants her boys to understand their own bodily autonomy — so they'll respect their own and others'.
  • Sowing seeds of self-love in our children — After struggling to love herself despite growing up in a loving family, Shonnie at Heart-Led Parenting has suggestions for parents who truly want to nurture their children's self-esteem.
  • Subtle Ways to Build a Healthy Self-Image — Emily at S.A.H.M i AM discusses the little things she and her husband do every day to help their daughter cultivate a healthy self-image.
  • On Barbie and Baby Bikinis: The Sexualization of Young Girls — Justine at The Lone Home Ranger finds it difficult to keep out the influx of messages aimed at her young daughters that being sexy is important.
  • Undistorted — Focusing on the beauty and goodness that her children hold, Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children watches them grow, loved and undistorted.
  • Off The Hook — Arpita at Up, Down and Natural sheds light on the journey of infertility, and how the inability to get pregnant and stay pregnant takes a toll on self image…only if you let it. And that sometimes, it feels fantastic to just let yourself off the hook.
  • Going Beyond Being An Example — Becky at Old New Legacy discusses three suggestions on instilling healthy body image: positivity, family dinners, and productivity.
  • Raising a Confident Kid — aNonymous at Radical Ramblings describes the ways she's trying to raise a confident daughter and to instil a healthy attitude to appearance and self-image.
  • Instilling a Healthy Self Image — Laura at This Mama's Madness hopes to promote a healthy self-image in her kids by treating herself and others with respect, honesty, and grace.
  • Stories of our Uniqueness — Casey at Sesame Seed Designs looks for a connection to the past and celebrates the stories our bodies can tell about the present.
  • Helping My Boy Build a Healthy Body Image — Lyndsay at ourfeminist{play}school offers readers a collection of tips and activities that she uses in her journey to helping her 3-year-old son shape a healthy body image.
  • Eat with Joy and Thankfulness: A Letter to my Daughters about Food — Megan at The Boho Mama writes a letter to her daughters about body image and healthy attitudes towards food.
  • Helping Our Children Have Healthy Body Images — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares information about body image, and her now-adult daughter tells how she kept a healthy body image through years of ballet and competitive figure skating.
  • Namaste — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment shares how at barely 6 years old, her daughter has begun to say, "I'm not beautiful." And while it's hard to listen to, she also sees it as a sign her daughter is building her self-image in a grassroots kind of way.
  • 3 Activities to Help Instill a Healthy Self-Image in Your Child — Explore the changing ideals of beauty, create positive affirmations, and design a self-image awareness collage. Dionna at Code Name: Mama shares these 3 ideas + a pretty affirmation graphic you can print and slip in your child's lunchbox.
  • Beautiful, Inside and Out — It took a case of adult-onset acne for Kat of MomeeeZen to find out her parenting efforts have resulted in a daughter that is truly beautiful, inside and out.
  • Mirroring Positive Self Image for Toddlers — Shannon at GrowingSlower reflects on encouraging positive self image in even the youngest members of the family.
  • How I hope to instill a healthy body image in my two girls — Raising daughters with healthy body image in today's society is no small task, but Xela at The Happy Hippie Homemaker shares how choosing our words carefully and being an example can help our children learn to love their bodies.
  • Self Image has to Come from WithinMomma Jorje shares all of the little things she does to encourage healthy attitudes in her children, but realizes she can't give them their self images.
  • Protecting the Gift — JW from True Confessions of a Real Mommy wants you to stop thinking you need to boost your child up: they think they are wonderful all on their own.
  • Learning to Love Myself, for my Daughter — Michelle at Ramblings of Mitzy addresses her own poor self-image.
  • Nurturing An Innate Sense of Self — Marisa at Deliberate Parenting shares her efforts to preserve the confidence and healthy sense of self they were born with.
  • Don't You Love Me, Mommy?: Instilling Self-Esteem in Young Children After New Siblings Arrive — Jade at Seeing Through Jade Glass But Dimly hopes that her daughter will learn to value herself as an individual rather than just Momma's baby
  • Exercising is FUN — Amy W. at Me, Mothering, and Making it All Work talks about modeling for her children that exercising is FUN and good for body and soul.
  • Poor Little Chicken — Kenna at A Million Tiny Things gets her feathers ruffled over her daughter's clothing anxiety.
  • Loving the skin she's in — Mama Pie at Downside Up and Outside In struggles with her little berry's choice not to celebrate herself and her heritage.
  • Perfect the Way I Am — Erika at Cinco de Mommy struggles — along with her seven-year-old daughter — at telling herself she's perfect just the way she is.

Tags: Carnival of Natural Parenting, chickens, clothes, self-image

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